Thursday, October 20, 2011
Affirm and Assert Yourself
This topic is what I believe is what everyone should learn. You can't just let people talk to you like you're any less of a person. I've lived my life before just letting things go because of not wanting to get into an argument, but there is a difference between trying to avoid an argument and trying to assert yourself so that people don't walk all over you. Of course we can't always please everyone, you have to let people know your feelings and opinions also. We can't grow as communicators if we don't assert ourselves tell people what we're thinking. Assertion means in the book, is a matter of clearly and non-judgmentally stating what you feel, need, or want. I never realized before that not saying anything and just letting things be was a bad thing. But now after realizing this from people and learning it in class, it has taught me to become a better communicator. If you're communicating with someone and they're talking all over you, you have to assert yourself and let them know what you think. It is just a one way communication and it won't help people grow as a person and communicators.
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Eyuen510,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! You cleared up this idea of confirming people and endorsing ideas. For some reason it was so hard for me to understand that differences between the two until now! So thanks!
With that being said, confirming ideas is very difficult. I find myself confirming people just for the sake of avoiding an argument, especially with people I don’t know. With people I do know, I typically feel more inclined to clash ideas respectively if need be. For the most part, I know that our relationship will not be affected by a simple difference of opinion.
I guess that’s where we differ though. Anyways, thanks for clearing up the two concepts for me!
Jossshhuaa
Eyuen510!
ReplyDeleteGreat post I agree with you when you said that we just cannot let things go because that will not help us grow as communicators. It is not fair to ourselves to have anyone just talk to you any kind of way either. We have to learn how to assert ourselves so others can know what we are thinking and know the ideas we have. So many people are comfortable just letting people talk over them and they do not talk back because they do not want to have that conflict. But, asserting themselves is the only way to enhance their communication skills!