Wednesday, November 9, 2011
online vs one on one relationships
It is very hard to try and grasp what a person is truly like from online vs in person. The way people communicate online is also different from in person. Sometimes when I'm online, I just leave my instant messenger on and not talk as much, but in person I communicate a lot more also. There are also perks of communication online, sometimes it is easier for people to communicate to people and get comfortable with them before they communicate face to face. Some people deceit people for whatever reasons. Some might be on how they look and goes all the way to extremes as pretending to be someone else. An example of this would be how some people take pictures of themselves online in certain angles, and posting them up. Not to sound shallow, but some people try to make themselves look skinnier, hide some features of their bodies, basically find the best angle for them so they look their "best". Another example of this would be people pretending to be someone else in order to talk to people. On Dateline NBC, Chris Hansen and his team pretended to be little boys/ girls to try and catch pedophiles. There are many people who lies online and in face to face also. It is easier to inaccurately perceive yourself online with fake pictures or photoshop. It is also very easy to lie to people in face to face communication also. People lie, but it's harder to lie about their looks or what they look like as much. Even when you think you might know someone, you might not truly know what they are all about. It is hard to say which is more likely to happen whether people deceit to people online more or face to face more. The scary part of online communication is that you might really don't know who they are, unless you met the person through a mutual friend, other than that, you have to be very careful with the people you communicate with online.
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You brought up some good points about online and face-to-face deception. I agree that some people lie face-to-face just as some do online. You also brought up points about how people can easily lie about their looks, gender, etc. online and this had me thinking a lot about how often this happens. I do feel that people shouldn't be so naive as to think that others are going to treat them the same way as face-to-face communication. Finding out someone looks different from their online photos, pictures, etc. shouldn't be so surprising for people because the internet and current technology enable endless possibilities for people to live several lies in several different locations online. Anyone is able to enter an online dating site and put their best photos forward, so we shouldn't be so shocked when people do so.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your post and thought you brought up a lot of common serious issues in both online and face- to face relationships. I thought it was really smart how you gave examples of each like the picture angles and dateline. I agree how you cannot truly know someone online unless you see him or her in person at least once. To me I think this is key in a stable relationship; however I don’t think its wrong to be with someone you met online. But this can be dangerous and you have to be careful. But I can relate to this I met my boyfriend online through a cousin. My cousin was best friends with him and introduced us through MySpace. We have now known each other for seven years and have been together for three years in a committed relationship. Also it’s true how people can still deceit people in face-to-face relationships through lie and other issues they keep from their partner. All in all good post!
ReplyDeleteI think I’ve stopped trying to determine exactly why people think meeting a person online is the same as in the real world. The fact is that they are two completely different scenarios and people react differently in them. Most people are more open when inside a familiar environment. I say that to know a person fully, or rather more completely in a shorter amount of time, than utilizing both methods of communication would the ideal choice. The fact is that if one person decides to pursue another in a relationship then really they should desire to get to know as much as possible about them in as many ways as possible. Liars gonna lie really.
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